Hey guys, Are you feel strangled in memory of a loved one? Is it tough for you to come out of the death of someone special? Don't feel bad guys it's a normal yet very painful process which you would have to go through. Everyone has to bear the pain of a death in his/her life once. I can relate to you because I have lost my maternal grandmother lately. And still, I am not out of the grief of losing her. It is difficult to accept that the person who was talking and heartily laughing is no more existing around you. But honestly guys, we don't have other options than accepting it.  We are living, eating, laughing and doing all other things but still, we feel hollowness inside our hearts. We miss them every day and every second of our life. There are nights when they come in your dreams and we want to embrace them once. There are days when you want to feel them around. But neither you can hug them nor they can come back. This is what hurts you and you don't want to accept the reality. We have no way to bring them back in our empty lives. 


Death tortures you badly when you are confronting it for the first time in your life. But as you go through death for once in your life you learn a lot, you learn to accept things, you learn to cherish your relations, you learn to live your life with gratitude and finally, you become mature.
G.M Hopinks writes about a young girl Margaret in his poem Spring and Fall, who is crying over the sight of shedding leaves.

Margaret are you grieving
Over golden Groves unleaving,
Leaves are the things of man you
With your fresh thoughts care for, can you?
Ah! as the heart grows older
 It will come such sight colder
By and By spare no sigh
Sorrow springs are the same
Nor mouth had no nor mind expressed
What heart heard of ghost guessed
It is the blight man was born for
It is Margaret you mourn for

•  Try to accept the concept of death:

• Passive anger: When one doesn't express that he is angry because he/she wants no confrontation-that is called passive Anger. In the short term, it causes no harm to anyone but concealed for a long time can be dangerous for one's health

•  Active aggression: When someone instantly lashes out and causes verbal or physical harm to others and himself/herself- that is called active aggression. This comes out in the form of fighting, bullying, blackmailing, accusing, shouting, bickering, sarcasm, arguments, and criticism. This kind of aggression needs to get controlled. 

• Assertive Anger: This is the best way to deal with an Anger simulated situation. When one is expected to growl but he/she keeps mum and behaves in a composed manner. If you deal with Anger assertively, it means you are mature and poised.

•  Righteous Anger: It's the state when someone goes beyond the limitation to cause you harm or to irritate you. Imagine If your best friend, lies to you and you become furious that’s called righteous anger.

• Habitual Anger: When you have a habit of becoming angry often on everyone and everything for no justified reasons, mostly for vain reasons- that is called habitual Anger. Anger becomes a part of your day to day life and you start shouting on everyone without logic. For example, if your child jumps on the bed and you shout on him with Anger or if your wife forgets to iron your shirt and you start shaking your head with heat that is habitual Anger. 

• Anger is a form of natural human response which can influence and threaten health from psychosomatic to heart problems. (Pauls and Stemmler (2003) reported)
• Anger relates to heart activities. When a person gets angry, the heart activity escalates.
• If the Anger condition remains for a long period, and the person represses Anger, the glands will release an excessive amount of body chemicals and cause the feeling of unpleasant and hormonal imbalance.
• According to a study from Ohio State University, those who had less control over their Anger tended to heal more slowly from wounds.
• Anger can be more dangerous if you have diabetes, hypertension, thyroid, and cardiovascular issues.

• Anger is a wrecker in your profession, you need to be very composed and tame if you want to be successful in any profession. If you get angry soon it gives a bad impression to your employer. And surely people will rate you down because of your poor temperament. 
• Anger can destroy your relations. Your relationship with your parent, spouse, kids, friends, and collogues get affected by your cynical temperament.
• Anger can make you rated the low esteemed person in society. It can be harmful to your social status and people will start having the wrong impression of yours.

3. Be bold to confront the offender: When you see someone unintentionally irritating you with his/her words or deeds, just go tell them politely that it hurts. If the other person is doing this unknowingly he/she will stop doing that. If he/she is intending to hurt you, it is time for you to get aside from that person. In case if that person is your close relative, you can minimize your contact with him/her until he/she stops irritating you. And please remember that: