Love is something that blows your mind
with ecstasy. You feel like you are the most rejoice being in this earth. Love
has a strong impact on your emotions when you are in love you feel every
emotion extremely. You soar high up in the air, you go down to measure the
phantoms of love, your visage flushes with the color of love. And you wish this
aura of love remain forever. Only exceptions can resist the magic of love, and
most of us fall prey to it.
“Love is of all
passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and
the senses.”— Lao Tzu
But, one of the painful things is, people,
suffer more due to love than anything else. As I mentioned above that love will
stir your emotions more than anything else, it will break your heart down in
pieces if you get dejection in love. I think love is not something easy to
tackle as easy it is to fall into it. Love needs patience, devotion, and
perseverance which are not simple to sustain. That why love is not for amateurs
it is for the mature beings who know how to handle it decently. Otherwise, you
will end up with breakups, rejections, and heartbreaks.
“Love is hard to find, hard to keep, and hard to forget.”― Alysha Speer
True love is not something that can be accomplished
easily it requires a lot of patience and dedication. And also when you are
fortunate enough to get the right person to be in love with. Love is not what
we pursue impulsively but that is something to be achieved with calmness. Love
is not something that teenagers do under the influence of hormones and forget
on weekends. They spontaneously switch from one person to another. Is it true
love? No, not at all. Actually, love occurs only one time in your life. Even
It doesn’t happen twice, if happens then it means you never truly loved someone
in your whole life. Because if you have loved someone and he/she leaves you for
whatever reason, they will take many emotions out of your life that you will never be able to feel for anyone
else again. That why I call love something which brings lots of intricacies
with itself. So you need to learn how to handle it.
Some tips to truly love someone:
- Become friend first: friendship is something which lasts forever, so guys it is important for you to become friends first. Best friends share things and behave frankly towards each other. Don’t profess your love right after getting introduced to one another. Become friends and know more about each other. If you’re best friends your love is likely to be more persistent.
“Love is a friendship set to music.”
-Joseph Campbell
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy
marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
- Love beyond the skin: Honestly, first sight love is apt for films but for real life, there is much to cope up with. First love is like you are attracted to the physical beauty of someone without knowing him/her personally. Spend time with each other and try to analyze if you are having the equivalent mental compatibility. Soon after getting hitched, this superficial love will evaporate. So, Don’t love your partner merely because he/she is beautiful instead love the spirit within the skin. Love them for what they are as a being.
- Dedicate yourself to your partner: Dedication is must whatever it is, if it is a job, achieving a goal, profession or a relationship. Give time, respect, love, and care in your relationship. This is how a relationship can be sustained lifetime. There is no other way to do so. Keep switching from one person to another will give nothing until you stop and give your proper dedication to your present relationship.
- Loyalty is vitality: If you truly love someone remain loyal to them come what may. Loyalty is one of the important qualities of the human race. Your loyalty tells how high spirited person you are. Don’t cheat your partner even if you are not happy in a relationship. Tell your partner straight that you can’t be in the relation. Don’t juggle with two person’s hearts at the same time.
- Talk to each other: One of the essential ways to maintain a relationship is to become open with your feelings. A toxic relationship starts when there is no communication with each other. keeping things buried deep down in your heart will harm your relationship. Couples should often share their opinion and problems with one another. It will surely help you to sustain a healthy relationship.
- Give space to each other: I wonder what happens after some time where this love flies off. Actually, when we are in a relationship we start imposing restrictions. We have do and don’t for each other. We don’t give privacy to our partner. Being in relation doesn’t mean another person is your property; he/she can have a personal life either. Obviously, we are sharing life with one another but still, we should respect another person’s personal zone. Let them do things for themselves. Don’t nag for everything he or she does for him or her. Giving ample space will not let the other person feel trapped in a relationship.
- Remove insecurities and negativity: Many people destroy their lovely relationship due to their own insecurities and negativity. Never put your frustration on your partner. Don’t doubt your partner for vain reasons rather you should have faith in them. And set them free, don’t feel insecure every time. Something or someone who meant to be your will remain yours forever. Someone who is not your will eventually leave you by anyways.
- Share your happiness and sorrows: When you truly love someone his/her happiness and sorrows also belong to them. Share every emotion with your partner. Support each other in bad times. Never let the other person feel alone in pain. Make them feel that you are there for them.
“You know it's love when all you want is that
person to be happy, even if you're not part of their happiness.” -Julia Roberts
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the
limo, but what
you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”— Oprah Winfrey
- Accept each other’s flaws: Nobody is perfect on this earth we all have flaws and blemishes. But true love is to accept each other with their respective flaws. Always pointing out each other’s faults will deteriorate your relation. The best option is Acceptance, accept the way the person is, don’t aim to change them. If there is something very annoying talk your partner about it but don’t constantly keep commenting on it.
